A happy life of a singleton

Lately, many epiphanies have been coming to me. What I have realized recently is that, all these years I have spent putting the work into me was so I could feel wholesome and be in a happy fulfilling relationship. One where I didn't sacrifice myself for, one where all my fears were dissolved, I did not want to feel scared of being abandoned, I wanted commitment, love and I wanted to feel content. All of the above is one of the reasons why I have been doing so much inner work. Yet still, no relationship to show for it, well, so I first thought. And then it hit me....

I have achieved all of the above and the relationship I am in right now is the one with myself!

I have never had a relationship that is as good as the one I have with me right now. Never. I have finally found the BEST relationship and I have found it with myself.

I feel content, at peace, I care for me, I look after me, I am happy, I feel loved, I enjoy my own company, and would even go as far as saying I make myself laugh.........LOL.

It is an absolute myth that you have to be with someone to feel like you are in a relationship. Who makes these rules?! Society actually, that's who! We are programmed to believe, in order to feel fulfilled we must have material things and create stereotypical success in the form of husband, wife, kids, marriage, mortgage. You can either choose to believe that this is the only source of fulfilment and strive to live by it, or you can decide to think outside of the box and find a fulfilling path for yourself?

Marriage does not necessarily equal happiness, and neither does the rest of it. I do not mean that the above mentioned is not a source of happiness but it is definitely not the ONLY source of happiness. This is what we must remind ourselves, for every time you watch a friend get engaged, announce a pregnancy, move house etc. Remind yourselves of the friends who are single that just got a new job, the single friends that enjoyed a weekend indoors with mum and dad, the single friends that had fun at a festival at the weekend, remind yourselves of your friends that are happy single just as much as non single friends, and if you are someone that is reading this and you are THE only single friend, remember there are single people out there, thriving and happy, and there is no reason why you aren't or can't be one of them.

However, do not get me wrong, even though I am wiring this, of course, at times I feel, I would love to be with THAT person and have some support and additional love whenever I crave it. But unless THAT person can add to everything I have already given myself then why would I give away my sacred time and energy to someone who is not in a position to reciprocate it?

Ladies and lads, fulfill your own cup first and anything after that is an additional bonus, be in a relationship that adds to you, not takes anything away.

You are too special to be taken for granted. So don't stay in places that are not fulfilling you when you can fulfill yourself harder <3